Another MIL post...

I don`t know what it is but lately I have really started to get irritated by my MIL. I think the number one thing that annoys me is that whenever she comes to visit she barely says hello to me before she is ALL OVER Joey. I feel like I am just here to bear the children and she isn`t interested in me as a person at all anymore. The same thing happened when she and D came to the UK. We met them at the airport and she didn`t even say hello to me even though I hadn`t seen her for a month but she was totally in Joey`s face like she hadn`t seen him for 10 years. Yesterday was the same, no questions about how I am, how the trip was etc.., she was just interested in the baby. Does anyone else feel like this or is it just me? I have also noticed that she has alot fewer boundaries with me than she does with my SIL, she does pretty much as she pleases when she comes to stay but yesterday when SIL was around, she kept asking if it was ok to do X etc.. when normally she would just do it anyway. It also bugs me that she is forever buying my niece stuff randomly but the only time she ever bought Joey anything was when we were shopping with SIL and I had picked up some stuff. I know Joey has loads of stuff that people have handed down to me and that my family and friends have bought for him but there is nothing to stop her buying him stuff in the next size up like she does for my niece. I am also aware that she is having fun because she had two sons and was endlessly disappointed that Joey wasn`t a girl so I am trying to be charitable but there are cute boys clothes out there as well. I guess I sound like a jealous spoilt brat but it annoys me when my niece is around my MIL is all over her and pretty much ignores Joey but as soon as they went home yesterday she was all over Joey again. I hate the way she plays with him as well and she is always trying to force him to do stuff like stand up etc.. and I want to scream at her to leave him alone because he will do it in his own time. He is pretty advanced for his age as it is and doesn`t need to be pushed to hit more milestones, he will learn how to do stuff on his own. I also hate it when she gives him stuff like tissues and plastic bags to play with when I am trying to teach him that things like that are NOT to be played with.. grrr... I am also still pissed about the satsuma incident. Yesterday she was talking about it again and saying how once she gave him a taste he was grabbing for it and I got really annoyed and said "look, if you put a bottle of rat poison in front of him, he would grab it and put it to his mouth and taste is, doesn`t mean he actually wants to eat it or that it is good for him.." I might have been a bit over-forceful about it but he is MY child and I don`t want him eating anything that I haven`t given him myself already. I am almost considering starting to take on more classes so that I have an excuse to put Joey into daycare and she can stop coming to visit so often.. I am evil... I know I sound horrible and ungrateful and it is probably just my hormones being weird but I just wanted to get it out of my system how I have been feeling. She isn`t a bad person and she means well so why have I started to resent her so much!?!