8/10/2006

Feeling like a celebrity...

They featured my blog on the Blogging baby international Sleepover. They even featured a picture of my Mum with Joey!! We now have less than a week until we leave. I have very mixed feelings about it all but more than anything I just feel sad. Last night we went to the cinema with my friends Eleanor and James (who got married last summer) and my cousin Mel (who lives in Australia but is here for Joey's christening as she is his Godmother) We went to see "The Break-Up" and while I think it was difficult for Daisuke to understand alot of the film, I appreciate the effort he made because it is SO long since we have been to the cinema and it has always been one of my favourite things to do. We also had dinner in Canary Wharf and the atmosphere of people having dinner after work reminded me (yet again) of all the things I am missing out on in Kagoshima! Obviously I realise that having a child makes everything different again but I think I need to make more of an effort to get out and about! The lack of babysitting in Kagoshima makes things hard though. I have been wondering lately why I trust my parents to look after Joey so much more than my MIL. When I leave him with MIL I always have a big list of "do's" and "don'ts" with regards to activities/ food etc.. but with my parents, I just walk out the door. I think a big issue is trust because I know she has given him stuff I have specifically asked her not to give him in the past. I think the other problem is that as a general rule, I don't trust Japanese child-rearing practises (the older ones at any rate) and I am convinced that as soon as Joey is alone with her, she will be forcing him to do things I don't want him to be doing. I should probably relax a little more because she isn't a bad person but I do think she can be a bit daft at times and definitely panics easily which worries me. I guess the other big thing is that my parents look after Joey together whereas she is always on her own. Maybe if FIL was around more, I would be more comfortable with it all.. then again, maybe not!!

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

Congrats on being featured!!!

We do not have babysitters here either. It gets frustrating but we get by. I am glad you got to see a movie!!

Trisha said...

I so hear you on not wanting to leave your son with your MIL. My MIL is good intentioned and well meaning but her ideas about how kids- especially boys should be raised are so different from mine. Like you said those old fashioned Japanese child rearing practices. Pain in the neck!! After he has been with her he is so hard to handle, running around doing whatever he want whenever he wants. Drives me crazy!!